I was thinking and i was questioning myself how could i ever perceive something in a narrow way...as confining what surrounds me to mockery, trickery, selfishness etc etc...how could i forget about a significant component called love...defining it or measuring is the last thing to do...as every individual is unique so is the perception about love...it differs from person to person...i do not talk about a platonic love or the bond between a man and woman which can and cannot take the route of sensual pleasures and find its symbol in procreation...i talk about something different...where there is no demand...no compulsion...mother's love is a symbol of such unconditional love...but what i talk is not about family bonds...my blood relations...but the experience of unconditional love from a non family member. I felt it when i was 17 and it continues to this day...a letter written to me by my peer was of a feeling of walking side by side...of family care...of plunging into darkness to spread light and of confidence in a relationship...i was feeling so good reading through those lines...and when that letter ended what my mind was expecting that came about...it read From a brother whom you never had...that feeling was inexplicable...it was a moment of unconditional love and too from someone of my peer group. The feeling was expected but those words were like rivers of happiness...of untold joys...to this day that unconditional love i cherish...I do not know whether the same reciprocal feeling comes from the other side of the picture...that whether he feels the way i feel today...i do not know what turn things might take later but that made a lasting impact...it does not matter what the other person feels but me as a person i felt something i cannot explain in years to come...i experienced unconditionality and that too not for momentary solace but to cherish it for lifetime...to this day...that unconditionality continues when it is with him...I cannot call him a friend alone...the letter ended and it delegated a different meaning to a relationship...of being part of my family...yes unconditional love is what i cherish even now...
According to me ,Love is always unconditional.How can we love keeping constraints and limits?It should be unconditional.Otherwise its just a show off which will fade sooner or later.
ReplyDeleteThank you for this reflection on love rahul...this is the whole thing every person is unique and hence a different perception of love...in words people talk abt unconditional love bt once we probe deep into it we get to know a different dimension of this component and that is one our mind realises that though the heart talks abt unconditional love...in reality eventually it is demanding and what unconditionality we thought was existing it fades...yet compromises and fear of losing rship is the only thing which keeps a bond going...perception differs from person to person regarding this statement...
ReplyDeleteMany tend to ask after this post unconditional love as to did you fall in love(in the common parlance people use)and to those who have such doubts the writing is left free to a human being's thinking capacity...and if it really focuses its mind devoid of such prejudices or pre-conceived notions, such components of that feeling of love is revealed...to say...the letter began with an endearing 'To a sister whom i never had' and it ended with an endearing 'From a brother whom you never had'! i guess that phrase speaks...my unconditional love...
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